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<lastBuildDate>Fri, 3 Sep 2010 02:21:00 GMT</lastBuildDate><image><title>The Biz Venue all News Posts</title><url><![CDATA[http://spruz.websnapr.com?size=S&url=http://biz-venue.net]]></url><link>http://www.biz-venue.net</link></image><item><title><![CDATA[Mini Biz Venue Offers Introductory $25 Monthly Memberships]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>
	The Biz Venue is an entirely new concept in affordable office space for home-based business owners, independent salespeople, and anyone who needs a place to work flexibly in a professional environment. At last, you have a cost-effective option to meet clients, making phone calls, and catching up on paperwork in a coffee shop!</p>
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	<img alt="The Min Biz Venue in West Olympia has six semi-private office cubicles." src="http://biz-venue.spruz.com/gfile/75r4!-!GKJMLJ!-!zrzor45!-!NPJLGHMP-LESJ-HDDQ-LPLE-NQQDIOOGSJOF!-!72y1nq/3md3p93l55t05x05r4a880fb4c247ca371316.jpg" style="margin-right: 5px; border-top-width: 1px; border-right-width: 1px; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-left-width: 1px; border-top-style: solid; border-right-style: solid; border-bottom-style: solid; border-left-style: solid; float: left; width: 300px; height: 224px; " />Our &quot;gym membership for businesses&quot; concept means that business professionals can use our facility for a fraction of the cost of a tradition office space rental.</p>
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	The Biz Venue includes a flexible, common meeting area and semi-private work cubicles. These areas are open to all members for UNLIMITED USE, and include free Wifi and high speed internet access, plus access to printing, faxing, and concessions at affordable prices. The facility will also include a conference room, presentation room and private interview rooms that can be rented hourly or by the day. In addition, the The Biz Venue will have longer term, &quot;anchor&quot; positions available for lease that will include access to all member benefits. By being on site full time, these anchor businesses will have the opportunity to interact with hundreds of small business owners and other professionals on a daily basis.</p>
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	<img alt="The open seating area at The Mini Biz Venue has room for up to 8 people." src="http://biz-venue.spruz.com/gfile/75r4!-!GKJMLJ!-!zrzor45!-!NPJLGHMP-LESJ-HDDQ-LPLE-NQQDIOOGSJOF!-!72y1nq/3k13o53pf5t55u45x6a88546dc1946e4c18c5.jpg" style="margin-left: 5px; border-top-width: 1px; border-right-width: 1px; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-left-width: 1px; border-top-style: solid; border-right-style: solid; border-bottom-style: solid; border-left-style: solid; float: right; width: 300px; height: 224px; " />Until we launch our 6,000 sq. ft. Biz Venue this fall, take advantage of our Mini Biz Venue for ONLY $25 A MONTH! This prototype includes 8 semi-private work cubicles, plus an open seating area for up to 8 people.</p>
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	The Mini Biz Venue is located in the Safeway Plaza in West Olympia at the corner of Harrison Ave. and Cooper Point Road.</p>
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	Find out more information on our website&nbsp;on The Biz Venue website or on our <a href="http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1007795110&amp;ref=ts" target="_blank">Facebook Fan Page</a>.</p>
]]></description><link><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Mini-Biz-Venue-Offers-Introductory-25-Monthly-Memberships/blog.htm ]]></link><pubDate>Mon, 9 Aug 2010 02:06:26 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true"><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Mini-Biz-Venue-Offers-Introductory-25-Monthly-Memberships/blog.htm ]]></guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[Just what is a Business Venue?]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>
	<span xmlns=""><span style="font-family: century gothic; font-size: 12pt;">The idea of a business venue or shared office space has been replicated around the country in many different ways. However, there are none quite like The Biz Venue, a whole new work environment soon to open in West Olympia, a suburb of Seattle.&nbsp;</span></span></p>
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	<span xmlns=""><span style="font-family: century gothic; font-size: 12pt;">This will be a work community that networks together on a daily basis to assist each other and their small business in many facets. The goal of Visionary in Chief, Russ Alman, is to help small businesses realize the benefits they deserve to make their businesses thrive and prosper.&nbsp;</span></span></p>
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	<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'century gothic'; font-size: 16px; ">The Biz Venue offers marketing through social media, printing, &quot;anchor&quot; businesses that can help your small business, and a network of professionals who are plugged into the online business venue.&nbsp;</span></p>
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	<span xmlns=""><span style="font-family: century gothic; font-size: 12pt;">There are other shared office concepts in the Pacific Northwest. In Redmond, WA, there is a shared office space called <a href="http://thinkspace.com/">thinkspace</a>,which is a community of entrepreneurs, high-tech star tups, non-profits, and small </span></span><span xmlns=""><span style="font-family: century gothic; font-size: 12pt;">businesses. They offer the usual private office, desk and chairs, internet access, coffee, fully furnished lobby and conference rooms. However, they charge $200 per month for two days a week in your own private office.</span></span></p>
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	<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'century gothic'; font-size: 16px; ">Another local business venue that is in Tacoma, Suite133, shares an office with telecommuters and &quot;anyone that craves the creative energy from working alongside other people&quot;. They offer natural light, wood floors, and a loft-style interior in a historic building. Derek Young is one of the co-founders of <a href="http://www.suite133.com/">Suite133</a>, who originally built the website Exit133.com which is a Tacoma forum and blog about Real Estate, Politics, the Arts and Urban Development.</span></p>
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	<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'century gothic'; font-size: 16px; ">In old town and downtown Portland, OR, are NedSpace locations. <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/neddotcom/sets/72157612500414436/show/">NedSpace</a> holds true to the Portland culture by offering bike parking for its members who are technology savvy and environmentally friendly. One company that uses NedSpace is a water delivery company that delivers 5 gallons of water to local offices via bike. Their tagline is, &quot;Drink the change you want to see in the world&quot;. An online marketing consultant, web and iPhone application developer, a web designer and graphic designer also occupy the brick building, making NedSpace a great place for a small business to find help to achieve an online presence.&nbsp;</span></p>
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	<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'century gothic'; font-size: 16px; ">Sharing the similar interest is The Biz Venue that provides a number of unique products and services to create a small business ecosystem designed to catalyze the growth of small businesses. With a bookkeeping firm, a computer support company and a marketing agency, any small business that works in The Biz Venue will undoubtedly enhance their business. At an affordable rate, The Biz Venue not only offers meeting space, work space, a coffee shop and presentation room among other things, but also a hand up in business services that large corporations take advantage of having.</span></p>
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	<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: century gothic, geneva, sans-serif; ">Very exciting news.... <strong><span style="font-size: 16px;">we have our brand new site online!</span></strong></span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;">Next time you visit www.biz-venue.net, you&#39;ll see an entirely new interface. &nbsp;This is much more than a cosmetic upgrade. &nbsp;We have moved our site to a new, more modern social media platform on the Spruz network. &nbsp;This move will provide us with a wide range of new functions, including the ability to schedule paid events, better message writing tools, complete control over advertising on our site, and special members-only areas of the site for the upcoming Biz Venue location. &nbsp;We will even have an online store so people can sign up for their Biz Venue membership online. &nbsp;Thanks to the hard-working people at&nbsp;Spruz, we have been able to migrate your existing user accounts to the new&nbsp;website, including your pictures and posts. &nbsp;The only thing you will need to do on your first visit is to create a new password.</span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><strong>We are hard at work preparing to open the first physical Biz Venue in West Olympia</strong>! &nbsp;</span>Next time you drive up Cooper Point Road, look at the building at the corner of Limited Lane, just south of the Capital High School sign. &nbsp;We have a tentative agreement to lease the entire bottom floor of the building. &nbsp;This location is virtually move-in ready and features a card swipe system, so we will be able to offer 24 hour member access from the get-go. &nbsp;It&#39;s a 6,000 sq. ft. space with a conference room, presentation room that will hold 50 people, and a large common area that all members will have unlimited access to. &nbsp;Heck, it even has a shower for those of you that ride your bicycles! &nbsp;We still intend to make our membership only $50 a month if you sign up for a year contract. &nbsp;Month-to-month memberships and day passes will alsobe available.</span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;">We are actively looking for interested businesses to hold our anchor positions. &nbsp;The plan is to have 5 anchors, in addition to my business (Alternative Marketing Connections). &nbsp;The anchors will have full-time offices on site, and also have access to all of the Biz Venue facilities. &nbsp;As our membership grows, these anchor businesses will see a stream of new potential customers every day. &nbsp;At the same time, as the anchors meet with their clients in the Biz Venue, they will help introduce more businesses to the Biz Venue facility. &nbsp;We believe this facility is large enough to support a membership of 400-500 total members -- not at the same time, of course, but remember that our &quot;gym membership&quot; model means that lots of small business people, independent salespeople, and commuters will be able to use our facility flexibly for a very affordable price.</span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;">We&#39;re still seeking to secure funding to get this location (just a small detail!!), but we&#39;re planning to put our business plan and financial projections in front of banks by next week. &nbsp;If everything continues on schedule, we will be able to open sometime in September or October.</span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;">In the meantime, <strong><span style="font-size: 16px;">please check out our Mini Biz Venue</span></strong> located inside the AIM Mail Center in the Safeway Plaza at the corner of Cooper Point and Harrison. &nbsp;If you sign up for a membership now, we will give you a special, reduced rate of only $25 per month until we move to the full-sized Biz Venue. &nbsp;We have 6 semi-private work cubicles where you can set up your laptop, connect to Wifi, and use our printers. &nbsp;We also have a small commons area with seating for up to 8 people.&nbsp;</span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><strong>Come by and check us out, and your first visit is FREE!</strong></span></span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;">Please take the time to visit the new website&nbsp;today. &nbsp;I&#39;d love your feedback on the new design. &nbsp;Keep in mind that the dust is still settling and I still have some reorganization to do, but I think you&#39;ll love the new interface.</span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;">If you know of any small businesses or salespeople looking for a place to work during the day or hold a quiet meeting with a client, please tell them about the Mini Biz Venue and the upcoming Biz Venue project. <span style="font-size: 16px;"><strong>&nbsp;It&#39;s critical that we start signing up members and anchors right away.</strong></span> &nbsp;This will prove to the building owners and the bank that we have a viable concept worth investing in. &nbsp;Even if you are not yet ready to join, if you plan to join once we open the full Biz Venue, we would greatly appreciate you signing a Letter of Intent showing your intentions. &nbsp;We will have a letter of intent for both members and anchors online shortly and will let you know by email, on the Biz Venue website and on our Facebook Fan Page when it&#39;s available. &nbsp;<span style="font-size: 16px;"><strong>Our goal &nbsp;is to have 100 members already signed up by the time we open, so <em>we need to get cracking!</em></strong></span></span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;">Help us make the Biz Venue a reality as a community meeting and workplace for the small business community of greater Olympia!</span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;">Thank you,</span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;"><strong>Russ Alman</strong></span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;"><strong>Founder of The Biz Venue</strong></span></p>
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	<span style="font-family: century gothic,geneva,sans-serif;"><strong>CEO, Alternative Marketing Connections</strong></span></p>
]]></description><link><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/New-Biz-Venue-Website-Online-The-Biz-Venue-Soon-To-Come/blog.htm ]]></link><pubDate>Fri, 30 Jul 2010 07:11:26 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true"><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/New-Biz-Venue-Website-Online-The-Biz-Venue-Soon-To-Come/blog.htm ]]></guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[Mass Mingling&ndash;]]></title><description><![CDATA[<div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102); font-family: Helvetica, Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 19px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102); font-family: Helvetica, Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 19px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">I think everyone whoever sat in front of a computer all day or had some "customer service" rep. tell you "you can do that online" has known that in person is really where its at..here's an article that really hits the mark-plus a lot of good info..</span></span></span></div>
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Long gone are the days when 'online' was synonymous with social isolation and loneliness. In fact, we're now witnessing the exact opposite: technology is driving people to connect and meet up <em>en masse</em> with others, in the 'real world'. It makes for an interesting, easily-digested trend, begging to be turned into new services for your customers.<div><a href="http://trendwatching.com/trends/massmingling/" style="outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-weight: bold; text-decoration: underline;">MASS MINGLING</a></div>]]></description><link><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Mass-Mingling-/blog.htm ]]></link><pubDate>Fri, 25 Jun 2010 19:17:59 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true"><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Mass-Mingling-/blog.htm ]]></guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[Networking&ndash;It&#39;s Face to Face]]></title><description><![CDATA[Okay so we all know this stuff, people do business with people they like. So one must shake a lot of hands and hand out a lot of cards and ask the person whom you are talking to..."so what do you do," and if you don't understand, you need to ask, "so who is a perfect client for you?"<div><br/></div>
<div>My friend Michael who is a recovering Engineer, although sometimes I wonder how much progress he's made since the last time we talked says...just let the other person talk, especially if its a guy...he'll think you had a great conversation. I would say that that is anyone, man or woman. Although women usually want to know a little bit about you personally, so they can decide if they actually like you and would feel comfortable doing business with you or not.</div>
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<div>I dont' know, call me weird, but someone who just gives me their credentials is a little scary, that kind of an exchange usually raises all kinds of red flags with me.</div>
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<div>I think you should respond to everyone you recieved a card from about how nice it was to meet them, that's just proper etiquette. You may not want to do business with more than one or two. Ask for a follow up coffee to talk more and potentially explore how you might work together for the benefit of both of you. That says, I want to and I can do something for you. Most people respond to that.</div>
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<div>I invite you to respond with your experiences or comments...I like the interaction, even if its via the internet!</div>
<div>Kathy</div>
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<div>Even the seemingly strong companies and box stores are going down not to mention banks, wow, what does that do to customer confidence, almost everyone sticks their head in the sand and says no, no, no, I don't want to do anything...not spend any money or participate in the economy.</div>
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<div>It's not all gloom and doom though, people still need certain things, and they want value for their dollar, they want to know that what they are putting out is going to be the best value. Entertainment, food, repair, insurance, things of this nature.</div>
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<div>In terms of Real Estate, and specifically Commercial Real Estate, there are deals out there right now, owners are anxious to put tenants in their buildings, there are certain things that owners still need to get when renting their building space, but the upside to tenants is financially adventagious.</div>
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<div>I am a Real Estate Broker in Western Washington and I negotiate on your behalf to help you get what you want. Give me a call and lets talk-my favorite subject, Real Estate!!</div>]]></description><link><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Real-Estate-The-Worst-Time-Or-the-Best-Time/blog.htm ]]></link><pubDate>Fri, 7 May 2010 18:56:02 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true"><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Real-Estate-The-Worst-Time-Or-the-Best-Time/blog.htm ]]></guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[Biological Mimicry and Workplace Bullying]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p><font size="3">When targets of bullies decide to stand up to their bullies, to end the harassment, they frequently act before they're really ready. Here's a metaphor that explains the value of waiting for the right time to act.</font></p>
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<p><font size="3">By adopting tactics similar to the mimics of biological mimicry systems, targets of workplace bullies can, in some cases, more effectively defeat their bullies. It takes nerve and smarts, but with Nature's guidance, success is a real possibility. See my previous blog:</font> <a href="http://www.biz-venue.net/forum/topics/confronting-the-workplace?xg_source=activity"><font size="3">What Is Workplace Bullying?</font></a> <font size="3">for a definition of "workplace bullying.")</font></p>
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<p><font size="3">A biological "mimicry system" involves three roles. The "mimic" is the organism that indicates, through various means, that it is something it's not. Indications can include coloration, shape, movement, odor, and more. The second role, the "dupe," is the organism that's deceived. The third role is the "model," which is the organism or context element that the mimic copies.</font></p>
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<p><font size="3">In workplace bullying, a target who exploits a mimicry strategy would be a mimic; the model is someone the target copies to deceive the bully; and the bully is the dupe. To see how this works, let's examine a biological mimicry system.</font></p>
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<p><font size="3">The turkey vulture ranges over much of the Americas. It's a large bird and a scavenger, feeding almost exclusively on carrion. In our example, it plays the role of "model." Our "mimic" is the zone-tailed hawk, whose range overlaps the turkey vulture's. Its plumage resembles the turkey vulture's, but it feeds on terrestrial vertebrates. The "dupe" is the hawk's prey.</font></p>
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<p><font size="3">To fool its prey, let's say, a ground squirrel, the hawk soars among turkey vultures, making rocking motions with its wings in the manner of a vulture. The squirrel is fooled, because it feels safe, knowing that vultures seek only carrion. When the squirrel least expects it, the hawk strikes.</font></p>
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<p><font size="3">Targets of bullies can exploit an analogous strategy. Suppose a bully has been targeting someone. In desperation, the target decides, "I've had enough." Many targets then adopt a common and tragically self-destructive strategy of striking back immediately in small ways. Sadly, this only alerts the bully to the target's change of attitude, and enables the bully to adjust before the target gathers enough strength and courage to be truly effective.</font></p>
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<p><font size="3">Mimicry comes to the rescue. Although the decision to counter the bully's tactics is an essential beginning, the decision alone doesn't make the target capable of stopping the bully. Preparation is required. The target might have to consult an attorney, or gather evidence, or prepare a formal grievance, or assemble witnesses willing to corroborate the bullying charges. These things take time.</font></p>
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<p><font size="3">Meanwhile, targets can "auto-mimic" -- behave just as if nothing had changed. The bullies are therefore not alerted, and thus have no motivation to escalate, or to cover their tracks.</font></p>
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<p><font size="3">Since bullying might actually continue during this interval, targets often have difficulty concealing the change in their willingness to engage. Self-control is essential. But if the target can dupe the bully until preparations are complete, a surprise counter-attack can be very successful.</font></p>]]></description><link><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Biological-Mimicry-and-Workplace-Bullying/blog.htm ]]></link><pubDate>Wed, 31 Mar 2010 21:44:34 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true"><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Biological-Mimicry-and-Workplace-Bullying/blog.htm ]]></guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[Classic Winemakers count down (6 more days until www.groupon.com feature (2 of 6)]]></title><description><![CDATA[<div>Starting Today We will Be Counting Down The Days Until Wednesday, March 31st</div>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font color="#000000">Another way to make feedback useful is to talk to the critic if you believe that they don’t know the whole story. If the critic doesn't know the whole story, talk to them about it. You could say something like, <i>"You know, I hear what you're saying, and I'd really like to be able to do it that way. But the last time I tried something like that, it didn't work because _________. How can I get around that?"</i> Finally, don't get defensive. If someone tells you something you can improve, they've done you a favor. So thank them.</font></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font color="#000000">While all criticism hurts, the first rule – especially when you're on the receiving end of negative feedback in the professional world – is to sit back and take it in. Use the active listening tactic of rephrasing the criticism. Mirroring under the fire of critical assault requires calm focus, but it works like magic to stop any potential browbeating. This also lets you move on to what you think and how you can use the negative information to improve the situation.</font></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font color="#000000">Remember to give yourself a maximum of 72 hours to sulk and ask yourself three key questions: What part of this is true? Have I ever heard this before? What would I have to give up if I changed? The answers won't necessarily come easily, but your thinking will be directed toward personal development. </font></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font color="#000000">All suggestions do not have to be followed; however, when the critic is a thoughtful, representative member of your audience, it is wise to give added weight to implicit messages that your premise, intention, or strategy may be flawed. If one asks for criticism, that request needs to be honestly sought and graciously received</font></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font color="#000000">It's not only difficult to get negative feedback, nobody likes to give it either (well, a few insecure sadists aside). This is the case across the spectrum of power. We are universally reluctant to trigger the hurt feelings, angry defenses or counter attacks that criticism so frequently arouses.</font></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font color="#000000">Of course, you know you need to avoid the hallway rants and sweeping generalizations that make negative feedback more humiliating and less useful. Beyond these basics, here are some guidelines for this tricky communication:</font></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="BACKGROUND: white; MARGIN: 0in 0in 12pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; LINE-HEIGHT: normal; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial"><span style="mso-list: Ignore">1. </span></span><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Pair every negative with a positive:</span></b> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">"You are an amazing problem solver, but you aren't following up with the paperwork.”</span></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="BACKGROUND: white; MARGIN: 0in 0in 12pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; LINE-HEIGHT: normal; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial"><span style="mso-list: Ignore">2. </span></span><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Give feedback on intentions only, don't speculate on behaviors or internal attitudes.</span></b> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Behaviors often are simply the physical manifestation of misdirected intentions: “I don’t know if you intended to X, but when you did I felt Y. Was that your intention?”</span></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="BACKGROUND: white; MARGIN: 0in 0in 12pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; LINE-HEIGHT: normal; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial"><span style="mso-list: Ignore">3. </span></span><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Be excruciatingly specific about both the problem and the expected solution:</span></b> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">"When you do X, it creates problem Y. Next time, try this instead... "</span></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="BACKGROUND: white; MARGIN: 0in 0in 12pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; LINE-HEIGHT: normal; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial"><span style="mso-list: Ignore">4. </span></span><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Extend yourself to maintain the relationship</span></b><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">. After criticism, people withdraw. Counter that by making friendly conversation.</span></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="BACKGROUND: white; MARGIN: 0in 0in 12pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; LINE-HEIGHT: normal; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial"><span style="mso-list: Ignore">5. </span></span><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Remember, reward is the most powerful change agent</span></b><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial','sans-serif'; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">. Go lightly over what's wrong and be heavy-handed with what's working or will work in the future.</span></font></p>]]></description><link><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Accepting-Feedback/blog.htm ]]></link><pubDate>Wed, 24 Mar 2010 02:34:23 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true"><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Accepting-Feedback/blog.htm ]]></guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[Confronting the Workplace Bully: Part II]]></title><description><![CDATA[<br/><span style="font-style: italic; text-decoration: underline;">This article is a continuation from: <a href="http://www.biz-venue.net/forum/topics/confronting-the-workplace?xg_source=activity">Confronting the Workplace Bully: Part I</a></span><br/><br/><br/>When bullied, one option is to fight back, but many don’t, because they fear the consequences. Confrontation is a better choice than many believe—if you know what you‘re doing.<br/>
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Workplace bullies select targets carefully, focusing on those who can’t or won’t fight back, because bullies fear counter-attacks. If you’ve been targeted, the bully probably believes you won’t fight back, and, paradoxically, that’s the key to successful confrontation. Here is Part II of our series on confronting the workplace bully, including six tips for managing an effective<br/>
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Have a clear objective</span> <br/>
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You probably can’t “fix” or instruct or improve the bully, because you haven’t been asked to. But you can force the bully to find another target, or at least, cease targeting you. That is a clear, achievable objective.<br/>
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It can’t be achieved in one dramatic incident. Prepare for a campaign—a series of small face-offs.<br/>
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">Rely on strategic surprise</span> <br/>
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As you begin formulating a campaign, you’ll feel an urge to counter-attack immediately in small ways. Resist the urge. Bullies sense these changes. If you counter-attack before you‘re really ready, the bully can prepare for whatever you finally decide to do.<br/>
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Strategic surprise is a significant advantage. Maintain the posture of a helpless target until you can suddenly apply overwhelming force.<br/>
<br style="font-weight: bold;"/><span style="font-weight: bold;">Most workplace bullying is psychological, not physical</span> <br/>
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While physical bullying does occur, most workplace bullying is psychological, consisting of rumors, lies, shunning, innuendo, exclusion, humiliation, shouting, insults and more.<br/>
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Avoid physical confrontation, because criminal charges are likely.<br/>
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Tactics for effective counter-attacks depend on the tacticsof the bully. Choose an approach at which you‘re more skilled- or can become more skilled - than the bully is.<br/>
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">In private, initiate; in public, respond</span> <br/>
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In each confrontation incident, choose between initiating and responding. In private, initiating the confrontation is a powerful display of confidence and courage. Without witnesses, you have more tactical freedom. In public, wait to be attacked, and respond powerfully.<br/>
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If you counter-attack in public without provocation, you might seem yourself to be a bully. Provocation by the bully is essential to success in public counter-attacks.<br/>
<br style="font-weight: bold;"/><span style="font-weight: bold;">Choose a favorable setting</span> <br/><br/>
This blog is a continuation from : Confronting the Workplace Bully: Pa<br/>
Choose the setting for counter-attacks carefully. The most favorable setting is either private or one in which most onlookers are hostile to the bully.<br/>
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Don’t expect open demonstrations of support, because bullies make such demonstrations risky for your supporters. All you need is a few witnesses who are willing to say that the bully provoked you, and that you acted reasonably.<br/>
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">In attack, be cool</span> <br/>
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Screaming, tears, and other expressions of emotion reduce your chances of success. A cool, deliberative posture says, “I enjoy making trouble for you, because you’ve made so much trouble for me.” It shows that you can carry out your plan for as long as necessary.<br/>
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The goal of counter-attack is to demonstrate that bullying you will be an expensive, painful affair. Coolness emphasizes and supports that message.<br/>
<br style="font-weight: bold;"/><span style="font-weight: bold;">All these ideas work better if you believe in yourself.</span> That is the place to begin. You can do it.r]]></description><link><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Confronting-the-Workplace-Bully-Part-II/blog.htm ]]></link><pubDate>Sun, 14 Feb 2010 08:54:59 GMT</pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true"><![CDATA[ http://biz-venue.net/pt/Confronting-the-Workplace-Bully-Part-II/blog.htm ]]></guid></item></channel></rss>